Anonymous asked: Love that u preach knowin what u want and workin hard to get it. I'm a smart, hardworking 25 yr. Old in grad school. Have dreams of owning my house, traveling, etc., but my prob. Is this- I'm not sure if I'm following the right career path..
I salute you girly for being out here on your grind. I feel like if you were to give up what you’re doing now you need to have a back up plan. If you’re not following the right career path then what is the right career path? How will you pursue it? I think that before you make a drastic move like walking away from your current path you should have an idea of what you want to do. You’ll know you’ve made the right choice when what you do makes you happy. When you’re passionate about it and it feels good. Good luck babydoll xoxo
porcelainnbarbiedoll asked: Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He broke up with me last week, 2 days before my bday. He says he cant be with me because he is moving out of state for college, yet this is like the 3rd time he breaks up with me.What should I do?
Leave his ass alone and move on with your life. You can’t keep doing this up and down shit. It’s ridiculous knowing you have to constantly watch your back not knowing when he’ll break up with you again. Enough is enough. The only way this will stop is if you truly put an end to it. No running back to him or any of that. No matter how much you love him this isn’t good for you mentally or emotionally. You have to stop letting him play games with you and take back your control over yourself. You have to move forward and unfortunately that’ll be without him. Best wishes xoxo
Anonymous asked: So I cheated on my ex&our relationship ended real bad obviously he's coming home to visit (now lives 5 states away) & I want to show him I changed.He can kind of tell bc I gave him $1200.00 to help with his car payments &paid for a flight to come up & visit. I still really care about him.He said he will see me when he comes up &will give me a chance to show him I changed but to not get my hopes up.He knows the old me not the new me so How do I rekindle the flame? & was I wrong to give him money?
Girl why on earth did you give him money? You can’t buy his love. Gifts don’t mean shit when you’re hurt. Things need to happen organically. Talk to him but don’t overdo it. Don’t chase him down all the time and sit in his face practically begging him to come back. Hearing “I’m sorry” and rehashing the past every five minutes is annoying and off-putting. I repeat, do NOT beg.You have to be calm about it and take things one day at a time. Even if you have to start off as “friends” and see where that gets you. It’s important that you both talk and that you hear everything he has to say. Find out how he really feels. From there you can determine what you want to do and if you can both move forward or go separate ways. Good luck xoxo
Anonymous asked: Is it wrong to stop talking to a boy who is childish, kinda rude and not ready for a relationship, to start dating his step brother how you have low-key liked for awhile and is very ready for a relationship with you?
You and him weren’t in a relationship so as harsh as it might sound you don’t owe him anything. He didn’t treat you well and he didn’t want to be in a relationship with you. If his step brother treats you well and you both like each other and want to date there’s nothing wrong with it in my opinion. Yes it might sound weird since it’s his step brother but if you both have feelings for each other and it’ll make you happy then go for it. Best wishes xoxo
Anonymous asked: I need advice on not letting people use me. especially guys. I am having a hard time cutting off this guy who is just using me (financially, and emotionally, and everything). its not HIM though, this has happened before in various situations with different people - its me. hes a jerk & I put up with it. (he's not my man, we're just fwb, I guess). I don't have standards for how people should treat me. it seems like its mean or something to set standards on how people "should" be.
Girl with that mentality people will stomp on you and you will sit there after it all completely miserable and drained. Mean to set standards? Nah. By setting standards you’re not telling people how they should be. You’re telling them how they should treat you. It’s you knowing what you want and not settling for less. It’s creating boundaries and knowing what behavior you’ll allow and what behavior you won’t. It’s you respecting yourself and expecting others to respect you. You setting standards is you drawing a line and letting bitches know not to cross it.
It’s all about self worth and self respect. Self love is knowing that you don’t have to pay someone (whether it be with sex, money, or whatever else) to love you because you love yourself, value yourself, and know you are worth more than that. You let people treat you like shit because you don’t believe you’re worthy of anything better. You have to get your mind right if you want to see a change. You need to change the way that you see yourself. Embrace and love yourself. There is nothing wrong or cocky about knowing you are worthy of real love, affection, attention, and respect. There damn sure isn’t anything wrong about refusing to settle for anything other than what you want and rightfully deserve. Stop thinking that by looking out for yourself you’re somehow hurting other people. Stop thinking that by letting it be known you are deserving of respect you’re asking people for too much. That’s the bare minimum! You need to fiercely protect yourself and the way you do that is by having your confidence up and knowing your worth. When there are cracks in your foundation that’s when low life leeches like the bums you deal with can slip in, take what they want, and leave. You don’t have to put up with that shit. It’s time to start treating yourself better. Check out this reply to a similar question too. Good luck xoxo
Anonymous asked: Thank you so much for what you do. You've turned my life around. I can't thank you enough! ❤️
Aww this made me smile :) No problem baby! I’m glad I could help in such a big way. Keep doing what you’re doing and don’t let anyone stop you! Stay bossy ❤️ xoxo
Anonymous asked: Hi : I need some advice .. I am 99% sure I have found the one .. I absolutely love him and he said that he loves me but he said he doesn't know what he wants in his life so it isn't fair to me and he believes in fate and things happening for a reason but the thing is I LOVE him so much and I don't know what to do anymore ! I miss him alot ( he is in a diff city for school)
I feel like it’s a situation where you have to let go and see what happens. Not wait and see what happens, but just see what happens. I also believe in fate, divine timing, and things playing out exactly the way they’re supposed to. If you’re meant to be with each other you will be each other. Even though you miss him and love him don’t stand around and count down the seconds until you’re together. Remember that you still have a life to live and that you are an individual outside of all this. Don’t center your life around your feelings for him or waiting for him. You are still a human being with goals, dreams, thoughts, and feelings. It’s important that you don’t lose yourself trying to gain him. Maintain your independence and your individuality and move along with your life. If he’s meant to be in it as your boyfriend he will be but time stops for no one. Don’t waste yours. Good luck xoxo
Anonymous asked: I already know that what my boyfriend and I are planning to do is petty and you're gonna tell me that but I just wanted to see what you have to say on this. Maybe you'd help me feel better. My boyfriend's ex has been trying to get him back since forever and recently they slept together. It's a long story but the cheating's not the issue. We're closer than ever and we planned on sending her a snapchat or two of us having fucking. My boyfriend doesn't care but I kinda wanna do it...
Girl you already know what I’m going say. That is some real petty bitch shit and you know it. What do you gain by doing that? You’d be doing nothing but playing yourself and making yourself look like a fool. What is this like some “haha I have him and you don’t” type shit? That’s childish and you’re too old for it. If you and him are happy then be happy! You don’t have anything to prove to her or anyone else. If you and him are over it then be over it and leave her out of it. By doing that you’d only be stirring up a bunch of unnecessary mess. Live your life and move on. Best wishes xoxo
confidentasfuck asked: part 3, and he apologized again and then he asked if " we good now" I said i guess so but i also let him know i still dont trust him and he said he figured that. now i really want him back and one of the reasons is that we didnt even get to know each other and of course i aint gon be easy to get at first i wanna be friends and i hope he feels the same.. so idk what tf do i do now?, i want him back and i just wanna handle this shit the way a boss bitch would please help me, love your blog xoxo
Hey bae :) I think you’re completely right when you say you should be friends first. Especially since you didn’t really get to know each other the first time around. Take things slow. That way you’ll see if you two really mesh together and if you really even want him the first place! You’ll be able to truly get to know who he is as a person and make a solid decision from there. See if there’s more of a connection between you two beyond attraction. There’s no reason to rush. Thank you for the love & good luck! xoxo
confidentasfuck asked: part 2, got mad and cut him off although I still missed him. then in a month or so when he got his shit together he texted me apologizin sayin how dumb he was. I accepted his apology but I was still mad so we didnt talk for like 2 month until last sunday. we go to the same church so last sunday I saw him and I walked right in front of him on purpose so he would see what tf he is missin. and later that day he texted me, sayin "i saw u today walkin all bad n shit" (sorry im makin it so long)
confidentasfuck asked: part 1 aye boss bitch, I need your advice. in august (2013) I started datin this guy, we were crazy about each other mostly cuz we are both hot lol but anyway we dated only for a month and a half and didnt have time to really get to know each other cuz his mom found out and he got in a lot of shit in his family and he started smokin weed a lot and just things got out of control and we couldnt see each other. then, later I found out he was messin with some bitch in his school so I obviously got
Anonymous asked: Hi I wanted to get your opinion modesty and the "hijab". I've currently been wearing it for about 9 and 1/2 years (I'm currently 17 years old) and I've recently been contemplating on wanting to take it off. Half of me wants to take it off to be confident while the other half of me wants to take it off to "show off" my hair (and maybe get attention). But I feel that there might be a lot of judgement and that I may make a horrible decision. Should I experiment with it or should I just keep it on?
When you make choices that affect yourself, they should be for yourself. That means don’t do things that you might regret in order to impress other people. Don’t ever change or sacrifice parts of yourself in order to gain love, attention, or affection from anyone. If you have to change any parts of who you are to get attention then that’s attention that you don’t need. When you change anything about yourself it should be solely for yourself. For your own happiness and peace of mind. Remember that it is 100% possible to be confident without having to take it off. Confidence all comes from within (check out this post). At the same time if you feel like you’ll feel a lot better with it off that’s your decision to make too as long as it’s for yourself. Yes there will probably be judgement hurled your way but don’t let that stop you from making a choice that could possibly make you happy. It all comes down to you really thinking about this and taking everyone else out of the situation. Forget about possible attention from strangers or judgement from people you know. What do YOU want and is it for YOU? Think about it. Good luck xoxo
Anonymous asked: If a guy has a girlfriend at a different school and he is constantly flirting with you at your school but then doesn't say hi to you when you see him outside of school when he is with his girlfriend does that mean I'm more than a friend? Because if we were just "friends" he would have just said hi to me right?
It sounds like he knows the shit he does around you (flirting) is wrong and he doesn’t want her to know about it. If he thought of you as more than a friend he wouldn’t ignore you when he sees you nor would he continue to stay with his girlfriend. If he thought of you as a friend he wouldn’t ignore you either. If he knew what he was doing wasn’t wrong he wouldn’t feel the need to hide the fact that he knows you. He’s just an asshole who’s doing sneaky shit behind his girlfriends back. Save yourself from the drama and cut him off. That’s one messy situation you don’t want any parts of. Best wishes xoxo
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend stated today that I will be going grocery shopping just because I got my check from my last job, it made me feel like he was calling me broke, I quit my last job and he also states that he left me leftovers from pizza he bought should I feel like getting rid of him??
I don’t understand your situation. I need more details boo xoxo