Anonymous asked: So I am a 16 year old girl and, me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year, you must get this alot, but I really do want to stay with him forever. I physically can not see myself with anyone else. He and I, are both fairly mature for our age we and really see us being together for a long time but its like everyone is against us because of how young we are and, a lot say it wont last because it 'high school love'.tbh its scaring me shitless. Any advice? xx
As long as you two love each other, care for each other, and respect each other it’s no one’s business. You both know what you have and if you feel it’s real then it’s real. No one can tell you two how you feel or how you’re supposed to feel. Don’t let people get into your head. You have to think for yourself and determine what’s right for you. If things don’t work out that should be because you decided that’s what you want. not because other people convinced you that’s what you want. Enjoy your relationship. Don’t let people’s opinions mess things up. Good luck xoxo
Anonymous asked: How can I get back at this guy? He used me and he doesn't know I know about the other girls he been with. I want to get back at him cause he thinks I won't do anything cause I'm really nice. What do i do?
I know I sound like a broken record but I’m telling you, move on. That revenge shit will always be wack. Revenge is just a waste. You’re wasting time and energy on someone who isn’t worth you even looking at them! At the end of the day he didn’t give enough of a fuck about you or respect you enough to simply be honest with you. So why would he care about anything you do? He’s not losing sleep over you and you shouldn’t lose sleep over him. You letting this go doesn’t make you weak. It makes you grown. It makes you a boss because you won’t be giving someone who means so little the power to control you and hold you back. Who gives a fuck about what he thinks? Move on and do better for yourself because that’s what YOU want to do solely for YOU. Don’t get me wrong, your feelings are valid and you have the right to be angry. But don’t let that anger make you stoop down to his level. Let it go. You have better things to do. Best wishes xoxo
Anonymous asked: Ok so there was this guy and we talked for a bit. But then we both decided that we didn't really get a special connection even though we barely knew each I other that well. And I don't know why, but I can't get him out of my head. Yeah he's cute and all but damn I don't want to think of him everyday. And it's like I'm holding on to something and I don't know what. Like what should I do?
It’ll go away over time. It’s normal to think about someone you’re/were interested in. The more you grow apart, the less you’ll care about him. You weren’t together or in love so it definitely won’t take long. Give it time. Good luck xoxo
Anonymous asked: Hey, i have been self conscience of my weight so i started working out and now ive lost weight but im not like skinny skinny and im very thick with curves but i bought a crop top that says wu-tang and im not sure if i should wear it cause i dont want to be made fun of. What should i do?
Read this reply. Best wishes xoxo
Anonymous asked: you give the best advice in the world, so ... I need you girl! I work at a job that I LOVE, I love everyone I work with, all my clients (its a mental health program), there is a lot of chaos but I thrive off that. problem is, I don't make much money and I am struggling to pay my rent/bills/get food/fix my car I got offered a new job that pays WAY more but sounds a little more boring. is it worth it? I feel like I will miss what I do so much. but I need the money! whats your perspective?
Aww thank you baby. I appreciate it! I feel like in situations like these it helps to make a pros and cons list. Which job would you enjoy more? Consider the time spent traveling between home and work, money spent on travel, hours, how you feel etc. It’s not always about the money. Doing what you love to do is such a blessing and it’s extremely rewarding. I can tell you really love your current job. Consider asking your employer for a raise. At the same time your other job offer sounds boring but is it? Do some research and see if it’s the right fit for you. Although living comfortably is important, living comfortably also means being at peace mentally just as much as physically. Having a well paying job that you hate isn’t worth it. Because even though you’d be sitting around surrounded by things you want, inside you’re empty and not able to enjoy any of it. I would hate to wake up resenting what I do. Some might feel like I’m taking too much of a hippie-like stance on this but there are people who walk away from good paying jobs everyday because they’re just not happy. Follow your heart and be confident in your choices. When you trust your judgement, you’ll never have regrets. Good luck xoxo ❤
Anonymous asked: Whats your favorite thing to do?
Right now my favorite things to do are binge watch novelas and drink green tea lmao. It sounds so boring but that’s just my thing right now! All I want to do is lay up, sip my tea, and catch up on my shows. It’s peaceful lol. Thank you for the question and stay bossy xoxo
dopepussyy asked: #3 I'm very happy. I realized this is what I always wanted. But I need ur advice cuz first of all, my parents don't know I'm bi and they are against it... What do I do? My mom thinks two girls is disgusting..😒 and another thing.. This guy..he got
Part 4 he got locked up recently & it’s hard for me to focus without thinking bout him all the time.. It got better now tho. My main problem is that I can’t organize myself, how do I do that..? 😥 btw now all three of us are together n I’m happy af 😅
Aww congratulations! In my opinion regardless of what your parents think, you have to be yourself. You can’t live your life to please them. It’s about you and what you want. If you want to be with a girl, be with a girl. Your mom might not agree with it but at the end of the day it truly isn’t any of her business. Your happiness always has to be a priority in your life. If you want to and you’re comfortable with telling her, tell her. Just prepare yourself for what could happen. If you’re not ready then don’t tell. It’s important to come out when you feel like you’re ready. You can’t keep it from her forever but you also don’t have to do what you feel isn’t right at this moment. It’s all about you and what you want.
Organizing yourself can be very overwhelming (or seem that way) but you just have to take your time. Prioritize. Focus on the things that are the most important to you first and ease your way into them. Like let’s say a priority of yours is doing better in school. Break it down. What exactly do you want to do better at in school? How important is it to you? Then take the steps towards accomplishing that goal. Study one math problem a day. Up it to three, then five etc. Apply that similar process to others goals you have. Break it down and take even the smallest steps necessary towards accomplishing your goal everyday. Motivate yourself. Reward yourself when you stay focused. You’ll be back on track in no time! I’m so glad that you’re happy and I hope you continue to be! Best wishes :) xoxo
dopepussyy asked: #2, a girl and her bf. Tbh, they are the realest ppl I've ever met. Me n her got a lot in common its crazy, we are like one person and her bf is.... all I ever wanted in a guy. She is bi too, so we got in like a threesome relationship n I'm really
dopepussyy asked: #1. Aye it's me again lol. I always ask u for advice 😆. Anyway I've been through a lot of bs with guys and I started doubting if there's anyone that is like perfect u know.. Also, I'm bisexual and about a month ago I started talking to a girl and
Anonymous asked: What's your thoughts on playing hard to get? Do you think guys like it when you go up to them first? Flirting tips? xoxo
Some might say I play hard to get but I don’t do it consciously. I feel like if you have this huge elaborate step by step plan to string a guy along it’s corny. You don’t have to calculate your every move when you’re flirting. Just be yourself and do what comes naturally to you. It’s important that you’re confident no matter what your flirting style is. Not just guys but people in general can pick up on insecurities and confidence. When you’re dealing with a guy and you’re sure of yourself and comfortable in your own skin, things will play out just fine. No matter what style of flirting you’re into, most guys (if they’re not immature) will respond well to your confidence and respect you for it. Don’t over-think the minor details. As cliche as it sounds, just be yourself. Good luck xoxo
bluestrawberriesandchampagne asked: How do you control your mind? I feel like I spend way too much time worrying about shit I can't control instead of focusing on what I can actually have an impact on. Also, how do I stop depending on others to make me feel whole? I want to rely on myself 100% of the time for everything, whether it's validation, love, support etcccc.... You are amazing. Love ya girl.
The things you can’t control can easily consume your thoughts because let’s be real, for most the thought of not being able to control certain aspects of your life is terrifying. Maybe that’s a little dramatic but you know what I mean. I feel like you stop focusing on things you can’t control when you realize that the things you have an impact on are much more important. Above everything else you have control over yourself. You can’t control certain situations but you can control your reaction. You can’t control what people say and do but you can control whether or not you want them around you. You can’t control how other people feel about you but you can control how you feel about yourself. When you recognize how powerful you are, those other things don’t seem to matter as much. Your impact is bigger than you think. That’s why it’s important to constantly work on strengthening yourself and becoming better and better as time goes on because that affects your life as a whole. Trust yourself and the process. The more you do, the better the results.
Realistically speaking it’s in us as humans to want love, attention, and affection. We want to know people care for us and that’s more than okay. It’s important not to suppress this. However it’s also important not to let that need get out of control and have you making the wrong decisions. You can’t depend on people for the kind of love, support, and validation that comes from YOU. Love, validation, and praise from other people can’t make up for whatever you (not you in particular, just in general) may be lacking within. It doesn’t replace that. Learning how to depend on yourself enables you to have healthier relationships with others. It all goes back to trusting yourself. Treat yourself like you would a trusted family member, best friend, or boyfriend. That means loving yourself with all you have. Defending yourself against anyone or anything that’s not good for you. Being supportive and caring. Always, always build yourself up. Make sure your dialogue you have with yourself is positive. For example let’s say you’re nervous about a test. Talk yourself down from it and tell yourself ”It’ll be okay sweetheart (or whatever term of endearment you like). You’re smart and you got this!”. Or let’s say you’re just having a shitty day. Tell yourself “It’s okay baby have your day. Just don’t let this day define your life. You’ll get up and feel better tomorrow.” Be kind, patient, and nurturing with yourself. Trust that the love you have for yourself is enough. Trust that you don’t have to feverishly seek that from other people because your love and validation is valuable and it is enough. It’s about knowing your worth and knowing that your input in regards to yourself and your life is what matters most. Best wishes mookie love you too! xoxo
shopcticks asked: I like my friend but he also gets hit on a lot and he's too nice to reject anyone who flirts eith him so he kind of just plays along. We're pretty close but i can't help but feel a bit jealous of the other girls. What should I do?
It’s normal to feel some jealousy. If you want to take things to another level you should talk to him about it. Maybe he doesn’t know how you feel and things would change if he did. If you don’t want to outright tell him, drop hints. But don’t be subtle about it. Flirt a lot, use body language etc. See how he reacts. If he’s receptive then that would be a signal for you to just tell him how you feel. You’ll never know if you don’t try. Knowing where you stand will be a lot better than uncomfortably watching on the sidelines and wondering how he feels about you. When you know what he feels, you’ll know where you can go from here. Good luck xoxo
Anonymous asked: Please help, I feel like killing myself. I'm done with everything, I feel alone and stuck and I HATE myself. I don't belong anywhere and I have no one. I am sick of getting my hopes up with everything and I'm so sick of trying. I'm pathetic!
Stop putting yourself down. You’re stepping all over yourself when now more than ever you need to be your strength. It can be very easy to slip into self loathing when you feel you’re not doing things right or things are your fault but that will not help you. You absolutely have to build yourself up. You need to keep your morale up through this and that won’t be possible through calling yourself ever name in the book. I know how hard it is to stay strong when you feel like everything is falling apart but you have to hold it together for yourself. You are valuable, loved, and worthy. You are capable. It’s tough feeling alone but I promise you that you’re not. There are so many people who care about you whether you know it or not. Regardless of whether other people care you absolutely have to care about and love yourself. Your love for yourself is what keeps you strong and it’s what keeps you going. You ARE worthy of receiving love not only from others but from yourself too. You are deserving of it, you owe it to yourself, and it is your right. Your feelings are valid and it’s important that you don’t run away from them or try to cover them up. However don’t drown in those thoughts and those feelings. Don’t treat negative thoughts/feelings as if they are facts. You’re not stuck baby. You have the power to get thing moving in the right direction. You have the power to turn all of this around but you have to be willing to do it. That means confronting these feelings, digging deep within yourself, and possibly reaching out for professional help. You can get through this and come out victorious. Even if no one else believes in you, even if you don’t believe in you, I do. Please do right by yourself and get help. Your life isn’t over. Message me if you have anymore questions and also check out this helpline or this textline if you don’t want to or can’t talk on the phone. I love you boo boo and you will get through this. Best wishes xoxo
Anonymous asked: How do you feel about friends with benefits relationships? Is it worth it?
I’m not a fan to be honest. A lot of the time things end up getting complicated and drama can stir up. It can work if you both are clear about what you want from each other and you also maintain your distance. Like being friends with benefits but always having deep talks, talking all the time, going out, doing relationship kind of things etc. can blur the lines. Someone starts catching feelings and then jealousy and clinginess starts to follow. Simply messy. If you can keep it purely about the “benefits” then maybe it can work out. But to me I just don’t see the point. I don’t like it. I love “flirtationships” though lol. Good luck xoxo